A Leap of Faith

As my feet edged closer to the ledge, I took one deep breath, threw my arms over my head, and hurled myself 43 meters off of the bridge.  What exactly was I thinking at that very moment? I cannot tell you.  All I knew was that there was no turning back.  And the funny thing was, I had no desire to.  I had come this far, worked up the courage to take this plunge, and for the amount of fear I had anticipated, I felt surprisingly calm.  

The excitement coursing through my veins was enough to get me over that ledge, and as I dove toward the brilliantly blue water of the river coursing beneath me, I realized that I had done it.  I had overcome my fear.

Never in all my life had I imagined myself willingly taking such a huge leap of faith.  It was as if I was a bystander, an observer of the whole scenario, simply watching this assured girl hurl herself off of the bridge.  It was as if I had floated out of my body, momentarily, gaping at the spectacle before me.  The best way to describe this experience is to compare it to that of a dream, a far off reality, but a dream so tangible and reachable all at the same time.

Since coming to New Zealand, this dreamlike feeling has enveloped me, leaving me with a sense of wonder and disbelief at where this dream has taken me thus far.  Before coming here and as much as I hate to admit, I did not view myself as the adventurous, go get em', live in the moment type.  Sure, I have imprinted myself with a tattoo as a subtle reminder of this motto I am ever-striving to live my life by, but this simple inscription on my shoulder has never felt real until now. 

 Living for today, in all its simplicity, has come to take on a whole new meaning for me.  I have already begun to notice a change in myself, a change I can say I have welcomed with open and excited arms.  I've noticed myself taking more chances, being more adventurous, and really living out this life mantra.  A simple mantra...yet one that takes conscience choosing and constant reminder.  

To live in the moment means to trust yourself fully and completely.  It means to trust the choices and chances you take each and every moment.  This trust extends into all aspects of life: trusting others, trusting God, trusting the universe, trusting the unseen, and finally and often times most difficult, trusting when the outcome, the result is not yet known.  

Yet, this ever-pervasive fear in our society and within ourselves has prevented us from fully embracing all that life has to offer.  We hold so tightly to this fear, whatever that fear may be, and we try to control each and every aspect of our lives.  This control gives us a sense of security but what is lost in the process is the natural flow of life.  We are meant to flow with life, trusting in every which way it sends us, but more often than not we are unable to loosen the tight grip.  We hold tightly to every routine, to everything that makes us feel safe, secure, stable.  

But each day this stability is compromised even by the slightest hiccup in our path.  So what do we do? We hold on even tighter.  But what would happen if we were to just let go?  To let go of this apprehension, this fear of not being in control?  I can say from experience that the feeling of not being in control is a scary feeling, so scary that I find myself fighting to regain my grip on anything I can get ahold of.

But what if I was to push through this initial fear?  Would I find myself trusting in the process as time went on?  In all honesty, I do not have the answers to most of these questions.  I think all that I can do is continue to acknowledge the moments when this fear arises and consciously choose to sit with that fear.  Then, in doing so, I can either choose to turn back or keep on going.  

As past experience has shown me, to keep on going, heading into the unknown, taking that leap of faith, has led to experiences far beyond my imagination.  Coming to New Zealand was a huge leap of faith in and of itself.  Not only that, but the experiences thus far have been far beyond the bubble of my comfort zone.  Each leap of faith I've taken has led to such a feeling of euphoria, accomplishment, and confidence that I can only trust that those to come will do that and more.  So in this moment, I choose to trust the path I have taken, to loosen the grip of control, and to keep moving, plunging ahead into the thralls of this spectacular adventure.

The Koru

The Koru is a Maori spiritual symbol meaning new life, creativity, personal growth and new beginnings.  This New Zealand fern plant represents the unfolding of new life, a subtle reminder that everything is reborn and continues.  It represents renewal and hope for the future.

The Koru is not only symbolic of this journey I am embarking on but of the life I have left behind.  Standing on the precipice, I left behind my family and friends as the fate of my home stood on the brink of disaster.  The Waldo Canyon fire swept through the foothills at a pace so rapid I am grateful for the life it did spare...the life of my family and friends.

The flames charged down the foothills behind my home, urging us to leave behind the majority of our material possessions.  I will never forget the image of the massive flames flickering in the rearview mirror as we drove away looking back on what would be the last view of our home and life as we knew it.  The fire took away my home, leaving behind only rubble and ash. The destruction this fire evoked will not be forgotten for many years to come.  The hiking trails I grew so accustomed to and maybe even took advantage of are now gone and exist only in my memory of life before the fire.

Leaving for New Zealand, not knowing if all was lost but expecting the worst, I drew upon a courage and strength I can only say came from something far powerful than I.  Fearful and unsure of what would happen to my family, I did all that I could do.  I put on a brave face, told them I loved them and walked to my gate without looking back.

Not knowing what I was leaving behind but knowing that what lay ahead could not wait any longer.  Going to New Zealand in the midst of all the destruction and hopelessness was nothing short of a challenge.  I boarded that plane, unsure of what I was leaving behind but sure of the fact that what lay ahead would restore the damage done.

I sit here now, two weeks into my journey and thankful of all that I have been given.  When something so precious and dear is taken away, new growth is just around the corner.  This journey has come at a time so precarious yet I do not for one minute regret taking this leap into the unknown.  I have lost a lot, but I have gained a lot as well.

So long have I waited for this opportunity to discover myself and to break free of the insecurities and doubts that have for so long plagued me.  The confidence I have felt these past few weeks since coming to New Zealand feels so right and yet so new.  For so long I've waited to shed these layers of fear and foreboding.  New Zealand has given me the opportunity for all that I've dreamed of: personal growth, self discovery, new beginnings and renewal.

The destruction of my home has left me with a sense of sadness and mourning, yet this despair has slowly transformed itself into an acceptance of that of which is beyond my control.  Life is constantly flowing, moving, transforming from moment to moment, leaving behind those who putter around, trapped in what has already happened and what cannot be undone.

 Life is ever changing, shifting and pulling us this way and that and our only job is to flow with life, acknowledging the moments when we resist and releasing this apprehension.  Change is inevitable and we can either put up a fight or welcome all that life has to offer just around the bend.  In this moment, I leave behind the destruction and rubble, welcome the momentous juncture of life's ever changing seasons and breathe in all that life has yet to unfold.

Waiting

There is a time and a place for everything.  Each and every major event, change or catastrophe has a time and a place.  The reasoning as to why, especially when innocent lives and treasured possessions are involved, is usually a mystery.  Such is the case of the raging Waldo Canyon fire that beckons ever closer to my doorstep, the wind now the director of tragedy.  The blaze began just yesterday and has remained a force to be reckoned with, already having destroyed 2,000 acres.  When the plumes of smoke transformed into a fiery orange, momentarily illuminating the sky, an eeriness swept over the foothills.  Never in my 20 some years have I ever sat so close to what looked like impending doom.  

I still have yet to fully grasp the gravity of the whole scenario: fire begins, evacuations next, packing up my room and what I can not live without, and of course the waiting.  Still in the voluntary evacuation zone, I remain at home with my family...waiting, waiting with cars packed ready to go, ready to leave our house behind if the time comes.  Thankfully, I had just finished packing for New Zealand so I had that part taken care of.  And my sister had just returned from Costa Rica (not quite what she wanted to come home to).

What happens in the next hour, 2 hours, 72 hours, is completely up in the air.  Never knowing how things are going to turn out in the end.  The waiting, waiting to leave, waiting for more updates, is like waiting for a ticking time bomb to go off.  But then it hits you: that whatever is going to happen is going to happen.  You save what you can and do all that you can.  The rest is up to God and nature.  

But, with 20 plus fires burning across the beautiful state of Colorado, it's hard to see the silver lining in the cloud (literally).  These cities, these mountains, my home, all seem to be going up in flames and little can be done.  But you slowly begin to realize that nature will, indeed run its course.  Homes and sadly lives may not be spared though, a tough pill to swallow for all.  

But, deep down, we all know these types of things are meant to happen.  Whether you want to call it fate, God, nature, or a lesson to learn, this fire and those elsewhere, are happening for a reason.  The cause may never be known and that is unsettling for the vast majority of people.  But maybe the underlying reasoning for this fire, this destruction, is to make room for new growth.  Maybe it really is “out with the old, in with the new.”  More often than not, getting rid of the old is a scary, frightening, and messy process.  

But without this destruction, maybe the new wouldn't be quite so stunningly beautiful, a breadth of fresh air, or a reassuring gesture that life does go on.  We may not know what is on the other side of the mountain, so to speak, or what the new will bring, but we do know, deep down, this is the natural cycle of life.  

It is the fear of the unknown, the fear of this change, whether that change be positive or negative.  Not quite sure of how things will turn out, we prepare, as best we can.  But when the preparing is over, the waiting begins.  And in that waiting, a knowingness comes forth: that waiting can only be done moment by moment.  As is life, we take each day, moment by moment, breadth by breath, living and loving just the same, sometimes waiting for the destruction to end and the construction to begin.  

Such is this fire a metaphor for this upcoming change in my own life.  In waiting for this change, this chance to go abroad for a semester, the days seem to pass ever so slowly and with the fire, an unsettling feeling has come over me.  But I realize that in this moment I can do no more than what I am doing.  I'm done preparing, and now I am waiting, waiting for this huge change in my life to happen.  If we live moment to moment, holding dear to our loved ones, our secureness, our presence with the moment, maybe the waiting is no more and our heart and mind open up to what we have in the present moment.  

Ready as Ever

In less than one week, I will be traveling 7,500 miles away into the land of the unknown, or what some may know as Hobbiton (yes it is now a real place).  I feel like I am on the precipice of a huge change, something I don't ever think I'll feel 100% ready for.  But, this word, "precipice," does not accurately describe this amazing opportunity for adventure that lay ahead.  I've waited my entire life for something like this, the chance to break free from the habitual life I've been living.

The opportunity to go to a completely different country for 6 months still scares me but not for all the reasons you may think.  This fear, this anxiety, of the unknown has shown itself to be the fear of being all that I can be.  It's the fear of truly discovering myself, my passion in life and delving into the real me, for I am unsure of all that I will find.

These past few days, as I edge closer and closer to that short 13-hour plane ride, I find myself becoming more and more steadfast in my decision to study abroad.  Months on end of waiting, filling out documents, applying for a visa, packing, preparing...is all coming to an end.  Preparation has taken some time and although my suitcases still stand empty, my secureness and assuredness grows more and more each day until soon, I pray, these fears shall diminish altogether.  I am standing on the ledge of a huge sweeping change and I am beginning to realize...I am as ready as I am ever going to be.  I am ready to go out into the world and really experience the life I've always wanted.

I know there will be challenges along the way, but I'm determined to brush these bumps in my path aside and journey on, headfirst into the adventure of my life.  I leave for New Zealand in 6 short days...a mere school/work week away.  I will literally be traveling into the future, almost a day ahead of my current location.  I will be living in a flat with 4 strangers (3 international students and one "Kiwi"-slang for a New Zealand native).

I will be on the complete opposite side of the globe reverting back into a chilly winter season.  I will be away from all that is familiar, away from friends and my family, who has made this trip possible.  But on the other side of the globe, another world away, an adventure awaits and I am ready as ever to take the plunge.   

Perfection in an Imperfect World

Starting this very sentence is a challenge for me right now.  I'm sitting here, fingers hovering over the keyboard, debilitated by the words I have not yet put up on the screen.  This is perfection at its finest...or in my opinion, worst.  The inability to even begin a blog post or a paper, without thoroughly thinking through all possibilities toward reaching that ever-sought after state: perfection. 

This word has been in my vocabulary all my life, a word pestering me at all times.  Now I've always known...let's rephrase that: my ego has always been aware of this pest tampering around in my thoughts, pulling at my emotions.  Being perfect is something my ego latched onto and would not let go of for the life of it.  It has literally drained me of my happiness, my sense of peace, my very presence with each and every moment.  It has become so embedded in the web of habitual thoughts of the subconscious. 

As I've slowly begun the process of rewiring my brain and detaching these thought patterns from one another, I find it harder and more challenging each day.  After 20 years of forming these connections, my ego is putting up a fight.  This is the state it has known: disappointment, discontentment, frustration, anxiety, and depression.  Looking back on these "dark ages," I find myself saddened by the wasting away of so many years.  I spent so much time in a state of unhappiness that I honestly didn’t know what happiness was like.  Sure, I tasted it every once in a while, but the majority of my time was spent in this depressing state.

I've since realized that this happiness has always existed inside of me, though buried by the constant suppression of it.  It was nothing I could go out and get from the world.  I couldn’t get it from food, from relationships, from boys, or from success.  I begun to realize that happiness, peace and contentment are states determined by my conscious choosing. 

Gaining this newfound sense of control was both liberating and imprisoning though.  Now let me explain.  Up until the point of my "awakening" (as I like to call it), I had maneuvered through life pretty much in constant pity of my life as I knew it.  I constantly succumbed to the "poor me" voice and "I'm not good enough" mantra.  I lived heavily in the past or the future, but never in the present.  Life was always, kind of a drag for me.  I was living in an all-engulfing cloud that would only lift from time to time.  I was sort of just getting by, not enjoying the life I have been given.

Then, a little over a year ago, I had had enough.  I was done sinking further and further down into the hole of depression.  I began to really delve into my spirituality and began to find out what this word meant for me.  Since then, I have become aware of my true immortal nature.  I know now that spiritually in its essence, means connecting with that part of you, the wise, all-knowing bit of God inside of you and reclaiming that as yours.  We all have this inside of us and you can’t get it from anything in this ever-disappointing world.  So, this was quite the change you see. I felt alive, with an energy I had never felt before.  Had I finally reached the state of perfection I had been working toward my entire life?  Not at all.  All that has changed is my mindstate. 

Since this time, I have grown so much spiritually and emotionally.  Now, I don’t constantly feel like my inner peace, my feelings of contentment are ruled by passing thoughts or moods.  This is not to say these thoughts, specifically perfection, never surface, because they do…daily.  I’m just learning to deal with it and accept this feeling of perfection a little better each day.  None of this has been easy; in fact it’s been the most challenging year of my life.  I’d like to think it’s because I’m finally growing and learning about myself but sometimes it feels like I’m still stuck in the old habitual patterns of my mind. 

           

Back then, I was too skinny, too flat-chested, too quiet, too insecure.  Now I'm too big, too curvy, too greedy, too expressive.  Notice the difference?  It's called wanting what I don't have.  It's also called the misbelief that the grass is always greener on the other side.  Whichever way you look at it, I have for the majority of my life been in a state of discontentment.  Always wanting less or more, bigger or smaller, better or worse.  In other words, a state of imbalance, as I like to refer to it now. 

Balance is a tricky thing though...it means balancing my desire for perfection with my feelings of inadequacy.  It means giving up the attachment to either side of the spectrum.  Neither digging into the past, nor reaching for the future.  It means existing in the now, in the state of imperfection, accepting the imperfections of myself, of others and of the world in which we live in. 

The “imprisoning” part of my awakening (sounds ironic right?) has been the awareness and desire to be all that I truly was made to be, thus fueling my perfectionist standards.  I now want to be more aware, more insightful, more “awakened”.  I want to be a better meditator, a better person, kinder, less greedy, less attached.  I feel this strong urge to help people, which isn’t a bad thing, but my perfectionism takes it to a different level.  I want to in blatant terms, change people, awaken them to their true nature, as well as awaken them to the reality of this world.  I want people to know and believe what I believe, but that’s just the perfectionist in me talking. 

What “I”, the real I, in me really wants, is to see this massive change in humanity, that begins with me and with you.  I see all these horrible things happening in our world: control, power, greed, and I can’t help but come to the conclusion that as of right now, our world is in a massive state of imperfection. 

But how can I expect perfection from myself or from others when we’re living in an imperfect world?  Maybe it's about just doing the best we can with what we have.  Maybe it’s about accepting in ourselves those feelings of inadequacy and translating that to acceptance of the imperfect state we live in.  I think it’s about becoming aware of our imperfections, both in ourselves and in the world outside of us, and accepting them, not trying to control them.  For once, I can finally say that I am good enough just the way I am, and that in and of itself is something.  

A Life of Uncertainty

For me life has always been planned, arranged, and somewhat predictable.  Go to high school, get a diploma, then to college, get a degree....you get the gist.  I've always had a "plan" for my future, a pretty set agenda for how I want to live my life.  What I'm realizing is this: there is no such thing as having a plan for your life.  Sure, you can take certain steps, like going to college, to ensure the number of opportunities you will get in order to increase your chances of being successful.  But when does the planning stop and life begin? Maybe it begins when we want it to.  Maybe all this planning is just an illusion our ego uses to distract us from the present moment, from being who we are truly meant to be.

I find myself being seduced daily by the ego's drive to always be working toward something.  My ego makes me believe that if I just do X, Y, and Z, my life will fall into place.  Maybe my life has already begun to fall into place though and maybe my planning is just delaying the natural course of things.  Maybe I don't need a "plan" to secure my place in this world.

Doubts and second-guesses always seem to creep in though, yet another trick of the ego, and pull me into their dances.  I begin to question the past and second guess my "plans" for the future.  I begin to question things like am I really headed in the direction I want to be in life? Did I pick the right majors? Am I really ready to go to a completely different country to live for 6 months? Did I pick the right university, the right city, the right time to study abroad? I think you get the point.  My ramblings and evaluations of the past would lead into a whole other list of questions doubting my past actions.

Why is it that we must doubt ourselves yet latch onto future plans? I think it's because we've seen certain situations from our past play out negatively and attempt to do everything in our power in order to prevent these things from happening again.  But my planning does not save me from disappointment, nor does it save me from worry or anxiety.  If anything, the planning gives me more anxiety and fuels my OCD-like tendencies.

So maybe it's finally time to let go of all the planning, the obsessing and just live, even if this means living a life of uncertainty.  I think once I let go of the control my ego tricks me into believing I have, my life will flow a little smoother, a little more natural.   Life is fluid, always moving, always changing, and never a sure thing.  I think it's time to let go of the plans, the worrying, the obsessing, and just embrace the natural flow of life.

We're all the same you and me...

On the bus ride home today, something out of the ordinary happened.  Due to the snowstorm we had today, I was hastily walking to the bus stop, alright let's be honest, I always "hastily" walk to..well anywhere.  Head down, arms pumping, I was on a mission.  My thoughts, to-do lists, and worries were chattering away as I approached the bus stop.  A man was waiting at the bus stop innocently snapping pictures of the snow.  He walked over to me and asked if I could take a picture of him.  I said yes and proceeded to do the 1,2,3 count (habit I guess).  I handed the camera back and figured that was that and I went back into the ramblings of my mind.

The next thing I know he's asking me if I'm a student, what my major is, where I'm from, the usual space fillers.  I noticed he had a Middle Eastern accent as he proceeded to tell me that he was from Iraq.  He moved here three years ago with his family and is pursuing his masters degree in agriculture.  We made small talk until the bus arrived.  I took my seat as he took the seat right next to me.  At this point, I felt myself becoming both a) slightly annoyed that I would have to continue to force small talk with this stranger and b) slightly uncomfortable and unsure of this stranger sitting next to me.

I'm not so sure what I was afraid of but I do know where this fear was coming from.  It was coming from the fear that we've all been conditioned to feel.  We've been told to fear simply because someone, some race, some culture, some religion is different from our own.  It's this same fear that drowns us in our own ignorance.  This fear is not our natural state.  Rather, love is, our home, our center.  We live in a country that was meant to honor and respect the diversity of all races, religions, beliefs and values, so why have we been conditioned to fear those differences?  What was so different about this man on the bus? Sure, his skin and mine did not match but whose does?  He was simply an alteration in image, appearance and superficial layering.  Yet, this fear persisted.

He started to tell me about his 10-month old son and even showed me a picture on his phone.  My heart immediately began to soften and the tension diminished along with it.  His stop came and went and we parted ways as quickly as we had met.  What was his name? I couldn't tell you.  But I can tell you that he has an adorable son.  I can also tell you he was just a person...a person on a bus...a person making genuine conversation with a stranger.

I'm slowly beginning to realize we're all the same.  We're all heading in the same direction: back to love, back to our natural state. We may be divided on the surface layer of things (race, religion, gender, beliefs, personality types, prejudices, struggles) but inside at our core, there is no separation.  You are me, and I am you.  This self is our highest nature, our true nature of love, peace, and stillness.

As a psychology major, the idea of our personality being at the core of who we are has made a lot of sense.  But I'm beginning to realize that this in itself, this labeling, this categorizing is the division that keeps us separate, keeps us fighting each other over our differences, keeps us locked in fear, keeps us anchored to our stubborn tendencies.  I may be more inclined to more strongly exhibit certain traits- reservation, sensitivity, anxiety, perfectionism- but these are analogous to the clothes I wear each day or the beliefs and values I hold.  The ego, the mind, is the biggest separation between people today.  The ego is not the self though and we must reconnect to this true, stable part of us.  The ego is simply the script we use in this play called Life.  I am you and you are me.  We are love.  We are One in the spirit and breath of God and of life....

Namaste...
"I honor the place in you where the entire Universe resides.
I honor the place of love, of light, of truth, of peace.  
I honor the place within you where if you are in that place in you,
and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.”